Milton Erickson November 6, 2019 at 5:26 pm
The situation I do not want the potty! ": Teach son (1.5 years) to the pot. Sometimes he may ask himself, but sometimes to any. Sometimes you take him up to be attributed to the pot, and it all starts to squirm and cry: "Do not Hoshu! Not Hoshu! "It takes 5 minutes. Get in contact – pants wet! Comes out and wants and does not want simultaneously. Or maybe he wants, but more I want to show "independence." Maybe this behavior is the realization of the subconscious desire to make their own choices. Using familiar to us rule – look at the cause of the problem as an opportunity to solve the problem.
Next time, when time seems to go, grab his little son in his arms and ask him a question: "Where you want to pee? In the bath, the toilet or the potty? Choose! " The trick works. The child thinks for a second (makes a choice), and then joyfully shouted: "In tuaet! "We're going to write to the bathroom, he washes over them and he really likes it! Comment: The device used to solve This problem has a dual potential effectiveness. The child focuses on the choice of several options, but the very desire to go to the toilet for an adult is encoded in the beginning of the sentence. No coincidence that this psychological Reception was named "Sham choice!" The idea belongs to Milton Erickson – Great American psychotherapist. Compare how the same proposal can be formulated in different ways, using this technique: Ineffective proposal suggests an easy possibility to refuse the proposal effectively assumes the appearance of a desire to make a choice Would you like to eat? What are you going to eat? Porridge, soup or cottage cheese? Give me a boy toy.
